Baby Got Back...
... got back into dating that is.
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so yeah, after what...now 3 and a half months or so?... i just went on my first real date with a new guy since breaking up with ron. haha, guess i have to admit i am itching to get back into the game. not necessarily for anything serious as i psuedo had with ron, but at least for the simple thrill of the game, that is... the game of dating. anyways, so i met this guy sort of randomly on an online chat and we sort of just flirted back and forth and then he finally suggested if we should get coffee or dinner. to be coy, i asked him if he was actually asking me out. he didn't really respond directly to that, but we scheduled dinner last tuesday.
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to be honest, i can't say i was super excited about it, as we had talked a few times on the phone before our date and well, to be honest, i wasn't all that impressed. but maybe for a silly reason. so the thing is... would you date a man that had a distinctly gay, in the sense of feminine, telephone voice? i mean, not that i am mr. butch or anything, but i think i don't get mistaken (that often) to be a woman. haha. oh well... i guess you can't have everything.
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he was nice though on the phone, attentive, conversant... ok. maybe i wasn't in the right mood to blab but i usually cut our phone conversations short in a polite way of course. i just figured, what's the point if you haven't really seen the person in the flesh yet. in some ways, these sort of "vitual" dating avenues, like online or whatever, i think personally just as long as you have established, as best you can that is, that this person is who he portrays himself to be at least online... well... then that's all you really need to know. i mean... how "well" can you really get to know someone, even by first date standards, from a "profile" or even a "picture"? so anyways, i was looking forward to my little date, probably more for the fact i hadn't been on a real one in a while... but also to see this guy for himself too... he did seem nice.
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and the date went well i have to say. and he was nice. we had a lot of conversation and there seem to be a lot of connection.... of the platonic sense though... at least from my perspective. i dunno, its hard to tell sometimes... what "you're" looking for... but with this guy i could tell i liked him definitely as a "friend"... but i was a little unsure about "chemistry". that is one thing i experienced and in some ways "learned" from ron i have to say... this sense of "chemistry". it's either there or not, even after the first meeting i have to say. the thing about this guy was that, even though i did think he was cute, articulate, socialble, etc... he didn't really seem hmmm... "passionate". now, i guess i could take the easy route and just say... well, maybe he wasn't into me, but i think it's just that he was trying so hard not to come off as a sex-crazed scumbag... that he sort of forgot to flirt.... he sort of forgot that this was... a date... not a business meeting or a college interview haha. i dunno, there just didn't seem to be any za-za-zoom, ala carrie bradshaw. oh well... it was a nice evening nonetheless... free meal... we shook hands (that a sign there)... and we said we planned to get together for a movie. this was a sincere sentiment though... i think i would like to hang out with him again... and if he is cool with being "friends" that would be great.
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now, then again... i don't think i want to throw this into the "friend" bin... just yet. i'll give him another chance to sweep me off my feet. :)
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baby got back.... back troubles that is.
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ok, was that weak? haha. so yeah, the day after my date, i was moving some stuff in my garage and snap!, i felt a sharp pain in my mid back! oh fuck! this with my leg that's still bothering me... great! but it wasn't that bad that evening... yet. the real pain didn't start until lunch or so the next day when out of nowhere it was just like... OH MY FUCKING GOD... I FEEL LIKE I AM GIVING BIRTH IN MY BACK. Haha!
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i somehow survive till i get off work but that evening, it was like.... oh my god, what is this in my back??!! and to make it more comical... i was excited that evening to make dinner for my cousin, making again the baked ribs with blackberry glaze that i sort of botched in ptown (this time it turned out REALLY good!) and some fried okra (i've lately gotten into an okra kick). i made dinner but the baby coming out of my back was sort of distracting to say the least.
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my cousin enjoyed the meal and we watched a dvd together. later that evening when i was trying to get to bed, i realized that the pain was getting to be ridiculous and somehow thought it might be something like a kidney stone (because the onset of pain was sort of disconnected from the actual cause... which i later learned is pretty normal). i called my parents and told them i was in pain. it worked though... they went through their magic directory of alternative medicine and the next day i had an appointment for one of their accupuncture friends.
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the next morning i had called in to work to miss half a day of work so i could go to this accupuncture appointment. when i woke up i had the feeling that it would be more than just half a day though. and yes.... oh my god... the pain. even getting out of bed sent waves of rapturous pain.... it was like a wave action boa constrictor against my ribs..... ah! and to think i actually drove half way across time to get to this appointment!
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when i finally got there it was sort of funny how the only thing you can do when you are trying to be civil and polite but still in great pain...is to sort of just giggle. haha. so i giggled through my problems to the doctor. he identified my lifting the previous night as the most likely culprit and not kidney stones, as i had feared (the medical symptoms on webMD ran to the note of "the worst pain your ever had"... well this was somewhat true in my case!) he susequently began his accupunture treatment, sticking needles into my hands, which strangely enough alleviated some of the pain.... whoa. then i got on the "massage table" face down, and he began inserting the needles into my back. ok, i consider myself somewhat "ok" with pain.... when the needles were going into my right side...OMG.... PAIN! and i yelped...i really did. it was embarassing, but i couldn't help it!
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long story made short, after the accupuncture i didn't really feel much better, so i went home, and my cousin came over after she got off work and she watched over me that evening and the next day. it was really nice of her actually i have to say. my parents loaded me up with tons of alternative medicines and i was forced onto a "lite" diet for the weekend...despite the fact that i had made this wonderful dish of baked ribs with spicy blackberry glaze. Argg! But you know, friday was the worst day i have to day, saturday i woke up with a small amount of pain, and as the day wore on, it pretty much disappeared. by saturday evening i was just back to normal, watching movies and cooking fabulous meals.
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this was a memorable weekend. but one i'd rather not go "back" to.
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